Leslie has written some excellent posts about her BJJ experiences in her blog BJJ Grrl.
She has a whole section about women in BJJ which includes links to resources.
There is a new page called Training as Women which is particularly good. It echos a lot of my personal experiences. When I started out in BJJ, I had a lot of doubts about all sorts of things, so I know it could be helpful to other women to read about Leslie's experiences. It may help them and their male training partners to see things in perspective.
I'm all for asking for no special treatment during training, only in terms of size/weight/strength differences. But Leslie addresses some very good points.