A friend pointed me at this great post about women and training titled: A Lion in Iron: Women—Be More, Not Less (by Alexander Cortes).
While the post is written from a weightlifting/strength training perspective, it offers great advice and could equally apply to martial arts.
My favourite quote from the post:
"For women, though, it’s the opposite. Their whole perspective is based
around what they want to get rid of. They want their bodies to be less
than what they currently are, not more. The whole female side of the
fitness industry has historically been built upon “getting rid” of
everything about their bodies that makes them unhappy, which is
This has to fucking STOP. I’m tired of it. I’m tired of women
thinking they are supposed to be weak. I don’t know who taught them
this. I don’t know if it was their mothers, the media, and/or their
friends. I don’t know how this started or who started it, but I do know
that it needs to end. Whatever it was, whoever it was, it needs to be
killed. You are not supposed to be weak. You have the right to be
Yeah. Too right.